A few months ago I decided that for various reasons I would take a break from Ways to Amaze from 1st July. When I told my husband of my decision he was very relieved, as this passion of mine to help others and spread kindness was consuming my life, which left no time to be the best wife and mother I could be.
A couple of weeks later a dear friend bought me a psychic reading and although I’ve always been a sceptic, I was excited to see what she had to say. With regards to Ways to Amaze, she was very forthright and said it’s something I must continue with and spend my energy on.
I was convinced then that this is what I should do, forgetting about the reasons why I decided to take a break in the first place. The first thing I did was book a night away as I needed to spend time on brainstorming a new sponsorship proposal and it was hard to concentrate on anything at home in the evenings, which is when I did most of my work.
Then for the next 6 weeks I researched and put together 7 personalised, sponsorship proposals. When I finally got around to sending a few of the proposals out the other day I was so relieved, I took a week’s break for the first time in 2 years.
I got to spend time with my husband this past week and amongst many other things, I made proper meals instead of leaving it to the sushi bar, or the toaster to feed my family. I realised that this is the precious time I had missed out on for years.
Yesterday was when the penny finally dropped. I had a mini break-down, my 19 month old son who is currently sick with his fifth ailment in two months had one too and clawed his own face in distress, making his face bleed. I was too exhausted to do what a mother should do and give my son attention, instead having the TV on expecting us to just relax and watch it. I was exhausted, working a part time job, then another 20 hours on WTA, whilst trying to raise a child mainly on my own whilst my husband works six long days so we have enough money to afford the rent and childcare. Like many ex-pats we don’t have any family here so neither of us get a break. How many of us families are in the same situation and how many of us give to others before we give to ourselves.
So with all that in mind, today I announce with a heavy and sad heart I’m going to be kinder to myself and my family and I’m taking a break from Ways to Amaze.
I can’t tell you how long this break will last but be rest assured it can only be a positive thing for WTA in the end, with a refreshed and happier person to drive it forward.
I would like to thank everyone who has supported me and shared their stories of kindness. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for Ways to Amaze but for now, I will spend quality time with my family, find my happy self again, learn how to cook better ;), reconnect with friends, give social media a wide berth, enjoy what beautiful Sydney has to offer and save the money I give to charity to pay off the debt.
Please continue to be kind to one another but make sure the kindness first starts with yourself and your loved ones. Thankfully I have realised now before its too late.
A couple of weeks ago I had a call from the Senior Writer from “That’s Life” magazine. Smita Mistry had been looking for stories to feature in the upcoming Christmas editions of the Magazine and had stumbled across Ways to Amaze on Google, and in particular a blog post I had written in December 2012 about my random acts of kindness challenge. You can read it here.
Smita loved the concept and during a half hour interview about how Ways to Amaze began and what’s it all about, she asked how I met my husband. It just so happened that I met my husband six years ago on a Christmas charity pub crawl and this tied in beautifully with the rest of the story.
The article has just been published in this week’s That’s Life magazine which is available to purchase now and until Wednesday 18th December in Australia.
I am thrilled at the result and it will be a wonderful memento to show our son when he is older. It just goes to show that no matter how long ago you perform acts of kindness, it can work its magic back into your life in a truly positive way. Enjoy the read and have a magical, kindness filled, Christmas and New Year.
It’s the festive season whoo hoo and I am feeling very festive and lucky to have just given birth to our first healthy and gorgeous son. I am so thankful to be joining motherhood as it hasn’t been the easiest road and to celebrate, December is the month for me giving back. For every act of giving and kindness I can do this month, I am giving $5 for each to this month’s great cause – the website www.givit.org.au as well as hopefully brightening up some people’s days.
I will update this post as I go – I had planned to do one every day in December but with a newborn I know this won’t be possible so I will do as many as I can.
If you would like to put forward any ideas for me to do this month, please contact me.
5th December 2012
For my first Xmas act of giving, we will help this piggy get very fat full of our families change. Once we can fit no more money in, this change will be donated to the World League for Protection of Animals (WLPA) which is an Australian campaign and rescue organisation that has been fighting for the rights and well being of ALL animals, both native and non-native, since 1935. This is a great idea to get your kids involved in especially at this time of year.
7th December 2012
Nothing can prepare you for being a new mum. Even when everyone tells you that it’s hard work, dealing with the sleepless nights, learning to breastfeed, the overwhelming feeling of being responsible for another human being 24 hours / 7 days per week, until you experience it for yourself, you can only imagine. A new friend of mine who I met recently gave birth to her beautiful son two days before mine. She has struggled with breastfeeding which is a common problem amongst new mums and this has had a knock on effect to bonding with her son. As well as dealing with the baby blues and infections, her determination to not give up is so inspiring. The other day I was lucky enough to go for a massage and it was better than any other massage I have ever had. I lay there and thought, my friend needs one of these, so today I gave her a massage voucher and told her to leave her son with me whilst she has some “me time”.
10 December 2012
Givit is our fabulous featured cause this month and their 12 days of giving campaign is running until 12th December 2012 where their mission is to achieve their goal of 20 items donated each day. So I checked out their list which can be found here http://givit.org.au/the-givit-list.aspx and I saw that one of their charities needs women and male toiletry gift packs. So I pledged my donation – a Bloom Gift Pack and will send it in the post this week to the charity in need.
13 December 2012
I was contacted by Sandlewood Op Shop in Queensland to support their efforts and wonderful work they do within their community and disadvantaged people. To help them support new mums, I will be sending them a selection of baby things which I bought but through the generosity of family and friends’ gifts, I really don’t need and they would be better off given to people who need them the most.
20 December 2012
Now I am a new mum I can imagine there is nothing worse than your baby having a nappy explosion whilst your out Xmas shopping and you realise you have no nappies, bags, wipes, cream etc. I therefore left this little nappy goodie bag at Warringah Mall’s bathroom change table for mum’s to use.
23 December 2012
Recently I gave birth and I can not praise the midwifes/nurses at Royal North Shore Public Hospital enough – they were truly amazing in the care they provided for us all. Today I dropped around this Xmas gift basket with two cards, one from my son Reeve and a Xmas card. Nurses/midwifes are certainly not remunerated enough so I’m sure any chance of recognising their fab work would be appreciated.
24 December 2012
I’m offering a free new Baby Bouncer give-away on one of Facebook’s Mothers Groups. I have asked the members to recommend a special and amazing mum who deserves this gift and the post with the most Facebook likes wins. I can’t wait to see people’s posts – I’m sure there are many mums out there deserving.
And the winner was a lady called Amy. This is what her friend said about her:
25 December 2012
Christmas Day has arrived whoop whoop. Today I left gifts for the neighbours kids from mini Santa aka my son Reeve ;0). We feel fortunate to have great neighbours we can count on so it’s nice to show we’re thinking of them at this special time.